No escape

So I've sort of been avoiding adoption stuff, except for a couple of forums, lately.

Yet, it seems like it has the power to find me, no matter where I go. I have been hanging out at a spiritual forum lately, and even there, I cannot get away from it. There I am, cruising along, starting to get myself together, coming to a point where I almost feel positive...

And BAM! there's that brick wall. The glass ceiling of the firstmother's life. The invisible barrier that keeps us forever in pain. The painful, eternal reality of our lives... we are, now and forever, our children's mothers. The right, the privlege, the joy, the beauty, of raising that child has been forever ripped from us with the cruel spite of an unrelenting beauracracy that sees us as unstudied numbers, and that worships wantonly at the slop-pit of the industry's coffers. Fat politicians, glutted on the money and the propaganda of a vicious machine that feeds uncaringly on the pain of firstmothers and adoptees.

Selling their selfish gluttony to politicians and the world at large has become the religious right of the adoption industry. They stand up, take God in their hand, and shake him in the face of all who will listen.

And then they lie- "Adoption saves babies from abortion."
And they lie again- "Adoption is THE loving option." (the only one, you see, nothing else is loving)
And they lie again- "Adoptive parents are carefully screened." (For financial viability- sort of)

The lies continue and build upon each other. And their favorite tool, next to shaking God in pregnant women's faces, is carefully inforced guilt. Then, they top it off with statistics that lie through omission- single parent children are worse off than two parent children- but they forget to tell the statistics on how much more often adoptees end up with the same problems, and worse, as the single parent children...

Lies. Lies. More lies. Lies through omission.

And our society is as blissfully ignorant of this as they once were to slavery.

We buy and sell children, and nobody cares.

I laugh when people tell me that it's just "reasonable fees" to "cover costs." If it were simply reasonable fees to cover costs, then why are the "fees" to adopt an African American or Mixed Race child so much cheaper than Healthy White Infants? Is there some legal loophole that makes it cheap? Less paperwork? No court fees? What's the magic that makes it so much cheaper to adopt certain races?

Oh yes... there is less demand. Supply and demand.

But wait, if it were supply and demand, that would indicate that children are commodities... which of course, they're not, right? I mean, after all... black babies are cheaper than white babies, which is ONLY because it takes so much more advertising to get the babies of white women. Right?

That's an interesting idea, but I wonder why it is that there isn't more advertising amongst black women. Why are white women targetted for this "service" of getting rid of their unwanted accidental pregnancy? Statistically speaking, African Americans are more likely to become single parents. So why are these good Christian people not out there "saving" African American babies from the horror of growing up in single homes? From the tragedy of growing up poor?

Not because people aren't lined up to adopt them, of course.

Not because they are far less profit, naturally.

It's because.... um.... I can't think of a reason besides the reasons that can't POSSIBLY true of these LOVING, SWEET agencies who exist ONLY to SAVE the poor, dear children... how about you?