How they found my blog...

"can you give a kid back after adoption"

Okay, now at first blush, that seems cool. Let's say the mom is missing her child and the adoptive parents realize that it really wasn't what she wanted and they are trying to do right by everyone. It happens. Albeit extremely rarely.

But there's a dark side to this question. It's called "disrupted adoption," and it is, basically, adoptive parents throwing the child back because the child has special needs. They often adopt from abroad, and then dump the child back on the agency or into foster care. The agencies (isn't this interesting) generally dump them right into foster care.

So... this poor, "rescued" child has now been not only ganked from their culture and their nation, but now they've been thrown back like a fish too small to be worthy of even gracing the table AS DINNER.

I wonder. Do you think that these children think adoption is a "miracle"? Do you think they appreciate having been raped of their culture and dumped into the social system of a foreign country that will now land them just as likely to become a criminal as they were before?

Some people will stop at nothing to get a child. They will go off to other places and buy them. But they want "their money's worth" from that child.

If you can't handle a special needs child if you end up with one, then don't adopt, loser. Leave the children alone! >:-(