My husband won't let me contact my child...

How someone found my blog: "I am a birthmother my husband won't let me contact my child what do I do"

Well, first, you need to deal with your marriage. When someone "won't let you do" something, then you have marital problems. You need to sort those out before you invite another person into your life, even your lost adoptee (especially your lost adoptee, who needs for you to have your head on straight and not be in a controlling, abusive relationship).

And yes, when someone "won't let me" do something, I am in an abusive, controlling relationship. The same goes for you. So what should you do?

Own up to what you have gotten yourself into, and then stand up to your husband. If you want to be someone's mother, then stand up for yourself and for your child (even an adult child). Own your own life, and don't accept someone else's commandments of what you can and cannot do.

It's time for you to grow up and take control of yourself, your life, and your choices.

Spouses are our partners, not our owners. If your spouse won't be a partner, find someone who will. Yes, you can do it. Yes, you DO deserve better than to be with someone who not only refuses to even try to understand your feelings and needs, but who further denies you basic human rights like access to your child.